The things that I have learnt in my 19 years of life;
1. Memories will always be a part of us
Sweet or bitter, when something occurs and the impact on us is strong, it will stay in our memory (possibly for life) unless we encounter any accident which wipes our memory clear. Often the memories that stay are the bitter ones, and sometimes they happen during our childhood. So there, a scarred childhood. But memories play an important part in our life; they remind us of the bad things that we do not want to repeat and also the sweet ones brighten our life. Memories are precious. The effect they have on us, is up to us to decide.
2. Nothing is perfect, nothing
Life, family, studies, relationships, work, etc. None of those are perfect, so are many other things. Family, it can be a happy one but problems will always stick around and if we can't handle those problems as a family (a whole) then it will slowly fall apart and the same problem will be brought up the next time another one hits. Studies? No, never perfect, at least not to me. And life? It can never be perfect because in life, that is where you have your family, studies and every other things. On the brighter side, its good that they are not perfect because only then we will have room for improvement, and also we get to learn from our mistakes.
3. Things don't always go your way
Yeah, you might have planned something out so 'perfectly' and waiting for it to happen and 'BOOM', plan ruined! Plans get ruined because sometimes, we can't foresee any obstacles and that is perfectly fine because what's life without surprises? You'll just have to take it and learn to improvise your plans and maybe make better, smarter ones next time.
4. Things are easier said than done
A very common example is New Year's resolutions. I mean, c'mon! How many of us do actually fulfill our resolutions? Maybe one or two, but never all. Most of the things, we say them easily but to actually do them, its hard. It does not have to be something big. It can be something as minor as telling a person you will be there early for a meeting or a date next time but then again, you are late. It is like making empty promises but we are not, we are just not doing the things that we said we will do.
5. Words are important
Words, words, words and words. Words are powerful, each word has their own meaning and at times, words can be hurtful. We have control over what we say but at times, our emotions take over and we lose that control. Words come speeding out when we are in anger and by the time we sit and reflect on what we said, its probably too late because those words, have already hurt someone and sometimes, it takes more than an apology to fix things. It takes time. On the other hand, words can be affirmative. They can be assuring and warming. I personally prefer to hear words of assurance especially from my loved ones. Something as simple as 'thank you for the things you've done' shows that we really appreciate what that person did for us. It does not even require a gift to show appreciation or love. Words, if we choose them carefully and rationally, they would be beautiful to hear, or read.
6. Backstabbers
Backstabbers are. . .ugly. They are the ones who put on that mask that coax you into believing that they are fond of you and then the next moment, insulting you behind your back. They are the ones who will not help you when you are in trouble, but purposely make matters worse for you. We can't trust people completely, and when I say people, it includes our own family members. Scary, isn't it? The thought of not being able to even trust your own family, what more when it comes to trusting strangers. Even your own family members can be backstabbers. This is one of the many signs of an unhealthy family. What I mean by this is that they don't bring problems to the table and solve them together, instead they talk about them to someone else. For example, person A in the family is unhappy about person B in the same family. Person A does not open up the problems and solve them, instead he/she complains to another person and pretends that everything is fine in front of person B. Others might perceive this differently, but to me, it is consider as backstabbing. Same goes to friends and colleagues and other people around us. Hence, do not give away your trust 100%.
